“It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all, in which case you have failed by default.” – J.K. Rowling
On Wednesday, I offered up (and also accepted) a challenge to not say anything crappy about anyone for 24 hours. I have to be honest: I blew it. Throughout my day at work, I said nothing negative about anyone. However, around 5:30 that day, I slipped up, and my wife called me on it.
I have a couple observations about the experience. First, I don’t know if I’m just a turd or what, but there were a few times where I had to remind myself to keep my words to myself. Without pinning any blame elsewhere, I found that being around others makes it somehow easier to talk smack. Not sure why. Second, it was harder than I thought. Again, maybe I’m a turd, but I made a conscious effort to say either positive things or nothing, and that took legitimate effort. And, when I blew it, my comment came rolling right off my tongue with ease. It took far less effort than being pleasant.
Here’s my analysis: positivity can be tough because not everyone is positive. It would be nice to have that strength in numbers, but it certainly works both ways. I seem to hear way more trash talking in groups. The reality is that it takes genuine courage to be a positive force, but that courage is just as contagious as spreading negativity. Give it a shot.
I felt awful when I realized I only made it roughly 12 hours without saying something negative about another person. I met my goal halfway. I was severely disappointed with my effort. However, all that did was give me an opportunity to learn and get better for my next challenge. I felt it necessary to reveal how I did being that I was the one to throw down that gauntlet.
So, if you accepted he challenge and failed like me, I sincerely hope you’ll try again. I plan to. If you succeeded, I offer a new challenge. 48 hours. Followed by 72. Followed by…well, you get the point. Consider it an ongoing challenge.
Have an awesome Friday,