“People are often unreasonable and self-centered. Forgive them anyway. If you are kind, people may accuse you of ulterior motives. Be kind anyway. If you are honest, people may cheat you. Be honest anyway. If you find happiness, people may be jealous. Be happy anyway. The good you do today may be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway. Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough. Give your best anyway. For you see, in the end, it is between you and God. It was never between you and them anyway.” – Mother Teresa
A couple of months ago, I was pretty upset. I had put a lot of time and effort into a situation only to have it blow up in my face. What made it seem worse to me at the time was that I had to learn about the result via social media. The fact that I did not receive the courtesy of a conversation felt cheap to me, especially after all the energy I had given. Aggravated, frustrated, and angry would sum up the emotions that I felt.
As I have had a little bit of time to distance myself from the situation, I realized that people that you genuinely believe to be honest can still find ways to cheat and manipulate you. I realized that you can pour your heart into working for something and circumstances beyond your control may not allow for the desired results. I realized that people have their own agendas.
But, more importantly, I realized (once again) that is ok.
Oftentimes, we get so caught up with what other people say or do. We get angry because someone has made fun of us. We get frustrated because someone has gone against his or her word. We get aggravated when we pour our energy into something only to have it not work out.
In the end, something inevitably worse happens when we give in to these situations. We start to take everything personally. We do not trust the next person who gives us his or her word. We do not offer the next person our full energy because we fear a repeat offense.
The truth is we are not only cheating ourselves, but those that deserve our best. Brush off the joke because, believe it or not, people are not out to get you. Keep trusting because ultimately that is how you will find those who keep their word. Pour out your energy to the next person because they deserve your best.
Avoid getting aggravated, frustrated, and angry. Control what you can control, especially your reactions when to adverse circumstances. Refuse to give in to the temptations of revenge and retaliation. Bite your tongue, if you have to.
How often when you watch sports does the second person get called for the foul? It is usually never the instigator. We all face adverse situations. Those who handle them with dignity and compassion are the ones who will rise from those difficult moments better off.
No matter what goes on continue daily to give your best because those around you deserve it. Doing the right thing is always the right thing to do. Be kind when it is hard, forgive when it is harder, be happy when everyone else is trying to bring you down.
Bring your best today!