“Holding on is believing there’s only a past; letting go is knowing there’s a future.” – Daphne Rose Kingma
In 2005, I graduated with a history degree from Thomas More College. I learned a lot from studying our past. As I think about the impact that education had on me, it taught me a genuine appreciation for how others have worked to shape the life I am fortunate to have today. I learned about the struggles that those early pioneers and revolutionaries had to fight for rights that I often take for granted. I gained perspective on those who fought for our freedom and risked their lives to ensure I could live peacefully in a land of liberty and democracy.
Within this framework, I have come to learn that our own histories and pasts can provide us with the same lessons on perspective and knowledge. We all have a past. Some of us may not be proud of ours, but it is a part of us.
I often meet an interact with people, who seem to be stuck in their past. They seem to be holding onto an event or series of circumstances that cause them to carry a grudge or be bitter about something as they live out their current life. They tend to blame their past for the behaviors of their future.
Today, I was reading an article about Major League Baseball correcting an incorrect interpretation in what constitutes a catch when they review it during replay. As I finished the article, I took a little time to read some if the comments. Comment after comment seemed to question how this would help correct calls that may or may not have cost their team a game earlier this season. The truth of the matter is that it does not. While that may be unfortunate, the important thing is that they will strive to get that interpretation correct in the future.
Why do we get so caught up in the past? Why is it so hard for us to let those things go?
Sure, those things may have been tough or painful or unfortunate. That does not mean that we should hold onto them and let them define us. That does not mean we should carry a grudge or remain bitter because those things happen.
The past is the past. Stop living in it. We cannot do anything to change it. Instead, we should work to study our past insomuch as we can obtain the necessary information to learn from it. We should use it to gain the proper perspective and appreciation for what we have today.
Continually hanging onto the past could cause us to miss out on all of the great things going on in our lives today. Live in the present. You have so much to be thankful for. Let go of what has been and embrace the here and now.
Your life is in your hands. You cannot undo yesterday, but it does not have to dictate today. Let go of the past. It can only hold you back. Today is the day to start changing and controlling your future.
Your history has already been written. Let it go and begin fresh today. Start writing a new history that you and others will be proud of.
Bring your best today!