“Things…well, things suck sometimes. And sometimes you can fix it. And sometimes you can’t. It’s just the way it is.” – Elizabeth Scott
Sometimes things suck, and no matter what we do or what mindset we seek, things still suck. This is reality, and even the most positive of the positive have to admit that. Bad things happen to good people, people die, people get sick, and people do dumb things that affect other people negatively. None of these things are awesome, and they are going to have an effect on you that is less than desired.
So, the question, then, is what do we do when things suck? Those around you that aren’t directly affected by your circumstances like to toss out gems like, “just forget about it”, “get over it”, or “keep your head up.” The problem here is that the suck-ness isn’t being acknowledged and dealt with, so sucking it up and moving on isn’t necessarily the best option. We need to be able to deal directly with the source of the suck-tivity or it can’t possibly be properly resolved. Let it in. Get to the bottom of it. Figure out precisely what it is that is bothering you. Sometimes (a lot of the time), it’s not necessarily your circumstances that are the problem, rather your ability and desire to deal with them.
Realize that you are stronger than you give yourself credit for. So often we sell ourselves short, and this includes our ability to withstand more than we think we’re capable of. Believe in your ability to overcome and become stronger for your negative experiences. There’s a lesson in everything, and some of the best lessons we can learn are when things don’t go as planned.
Be grateful for the things you have; the people around you, your talents and abilities, the things that make you happy. Count them. Add them up. Actively seek them. These are the things that matter, and these are the things that help you get by when things suck.
“Even the darkest night will end and the sun will rise.” – Victor Hugo
Have an awesome Friday,