“Anybody can do anything he wants to if he wants to do it badly enough.” – Theodore Sturgeon
If you’ve been reading along (and we hope you have), you’re aware of our belief that happiness is a choice that is determined by our attitudes and perceptions. Often, when we’re doing the conditioning part of practice in baseball and we have a minute left of whatever we’re doing, I will tell my guys that anyone can do anything for one minute. The general result of that is that they continue to push through, or try even harder because they can see the light at the end of the tunnel. Mind takes over the matter, and they use that last minute to succeed.
When we take on new endeavors like diets or exercise, we regularly push too hard too fast. The end result of that is usually failure. However, if we can approach things in smaller steps, our chances for success increase dramatically. For example, if you’ve been someone that is often pessimistic or negative, you’re not just going to turn on the sunshine and become a new person instantaneously. Giant overhauls take time, so it’s silly to think that we can completely transform overnight. Instead, my suggestion is a gradual and focused change of thinking to get to an ultimate goal of happiness and positivity. It starts with one day.
In the interest of full disclosure, I am not the most positive person in the world. Before I started contributing to this blog, and before Noah and I started having our discussions about the mentally counterproductive things we do, I would have classified myself as pessimistic, negative, and lazy in my perceptions. I’m still not the cheeriest guy on a regular basis. I just try. What writing about this subject matter six days a week has taught me is that this is a process. The process of changing my attitude and way of thinking started one blog post at a time. With new diets and exercise routines, you’re not going to lose 50 lbs. overnight. With trying to change an ingrained mindset, you’re not going to be Johnny Positivity in a day. Start small.
Decide on a day, and set the goal that you are going to make that day as positive as possible.
Make the effort to be kind to everyone you encounter. Smile. Say hello. It’s amazing what focusing on others can do for your own personal positive development.
Breathe. You’re going to get aggravated. When you feel the negativity creeping in, take a deep breath, approach it with a new mindset, and push forward.
Stay in the moment. You can’t change yesterday. Tomorrow isn’t guaranteed. Do what you can do now to the very best of your ability. There’s really no other option.
Reflect. Recall positive memories and successes. Let go of negative thoughts as quickly as they pop up.
You’re going to have setbacks. You’re going to have absolute failures. There are days where you’re going to feel like choking everyone you see. What is important is realizing that your attitude and how you handle your environment and circumstances will dictate your happiness. You are, 100%, unequivocally, without question, in control of your attitude and ultimately your happiness. Try it for one day. If you can do it for one day, do it again the next. If you didn’t do it as well as you think you could have, try again.
It starts one day at a time.
Have an awesome Thursday,