“Before you embark on a journey of revenge, dig two graves.” – Confucius
Yesterday at Mass, the readings explained to us how we should offer no resistance to the wicked or evil. Instead, we should turn the other cheek, love our enemy, and pray for those who persecute us. This all goes against the concept of eye for an eye, which we so commonly hear or want to do.
Our natural reaction when someone has wronged us is to say, “I’ll get you back.” Perhaps, this need or want for revenge is a matter of survival or even one of instinct. But, what are we really accomplishing?
It always amazes me how people are so quick to respond to hatred with hate. A person makes an ill-advised statement, and people are quick to jump on Facebook or Twitter or perhaps just their soap boxes to berate this person. Are you not just stooping to their level? Are you not just saying the same ill-advised things to them that you were so upset about to begin with? How does this make you the better person?
We must strive to be the better person. I know that is not always the easy reaction, but it is the correct one. Take a breath. Grab some perspective. Find the context. Before your emotions boil over or your words start fire out uncontrollably, make sure they are things we will not regret later.
We must use better judgment with our words. We must be better with our reactions. We must find a way to control our anger and let it subside, instead of releasing it.
Perhaps, a little bit of love, compassion, and forgiveness is in order. Maybe, we need to figure out which battles we need to pick, and approach them with some common sense. Before we overreact, we should think about letting calmness and logic take over.
Revenge is never the best answer. Getting even accomplishes nothing, but putting us on equal footing with the person who angered us. The next time you think about getting someone back, start thinking about ways to get over it instead. The view is better from the high road.
Bring your best today!