“When you say ‘yes’ to others, make sure you are not saying ‘no’ to yourself.” – Paulo Coehlo
I read a book once to which I cannot recall the title right now that was discussing the idea of having a purpose and a vision. The author stated that we must act with this purpose and vision in mind in every decision that we make. The author called this purpose and vision our bigger yes. The book expressed the idea that we may have to say no to certain things at various moments.
Saying no is not easy. We do not like to let people down. Oftentimes, we spread ourselves so thin in order to keep everyone happy that we run ourselves ragged trying to keep up.
Knowing when to say no is harder. We do not want to miss an opportunity. We want to help when we can because we believe it will look good for us and lead to better things. We believe that being there for people will impress them. Saying no to them, in our opinion, could move us down the food chain or put us in the doghouse.
Allow me to provide a couple of simple guidelines for saying no:
Find your purpose and vision. Will your decision to say yes or no advance this purpose or vision? Will your decision to say yes or no interfere with your purpose or vision?
The important thing to remember is that whenever we say no, we are saying yes to our bigger yes. We must allow ourselves this freedom. We must not be so set on trying to please everyone that we hinder the growth of our own vision.
Keep the bigger yes in mind. And say no accordingly.
Bring your best today!