“Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?” – Mary Oliver
Now, here is what you should do…
I had just told someone that I had started this blog. I explained that Aaron and I were trying to share a message of positivity and optimism to help people be their best every single day. I was seeking advice from someone with whom I was acquainted. Before I even had a chance to get into any more details, this person started in on all of these things Aaron and I should be doing. I politely shifted the conversation to a different topic.
I have encountered these situations several times over the years, and those words always make me cringe. I know we believe that we are trying to be helpful. We are just trying to project our own experiences on others with all of the best of intentions.
Everyone is different. What works for one may not work for another. We know you mean well. We know you are really excited to share your ideas.
However, our delivery needs improvement. We are saying all of the right things in all of the wrong ways.
The next time that someone begins to share a new idea with you, comes to you for advice about a relationship or new job, or asks you to pitch a new proposal to their company try not to immediately bombard them with a laundry list of things that they should be doing. Take a step back to gather yourself, then ask that one important question that we all are begging for you to ask us. What are your plans?
It is simple. It is genuine. It is personal. It only requires a little bit of listening.
How do you relate what you know to what we are doing unless you ask what we plan on doing?
The question builds trust because you are actually listening to our needs. You give us a chance to actually ask you what we should do instead of turning us off by telling us. We can now work together and learn from one another. The question is genuine, authentic, and endearing.
People want to know that you care about them and their ideas, not just about your own agendas and proving how much you know. Start by asking about their plan. Then, there will be much more time to offer your ideas with consideration of their intentions.
Bring your best today!