“Don’t let making a living prevent you from making a life.” – John Wooden
One of the hardest things that we have to juggle throughout our life is finding the appropriate balance among all things in our life.
On the one hand, we want to do well at our jobs, so oftentimes we will throw extra hours there in order to make a great impression and work hard.
Then, on the other, we want to be there for our families, so we will drop anything or take a sick/vacation day to get them to the doctor, help them move, stay home with them while sick, attend sporting events, etc.
Not to mention, we try to add in running errands, seeing our friends, relaxing for ourselves, or even sleep.
You could see how this is a never-ending and what seems like relentless battle with ourselves to remain ahead of the curve or at least like we are not constantly behind the eight-ball. This has the potential to lead to an overabundance of stress and worry because we always feel like we are forgetting something or are playing catch up.
As a coach, especially a young one, I feel like this is one of the toughest things to learn. We feel as though we must be a slave to our job because if we aren’t doing something then someone else is, and maybe we have let our players down.
I read a story about Tony Dungy a while ago. He talked about when he first coached that he always felt the need to be in the office and all of his assistants felt the need to be at the facility longer than he was. As I remember it, several of his assistants that were staying late at the office were having family trouble. The assistants felt like they had to be there every hour possible in order to climb the ladder. Coach Dungy began encouraging his coaches to become more efficient with their work. The demands were still great and a lot of work had to be done, but Coach Dungy performed his work quickly and efficiently to begin going home to spend time with his family. He encouraged his staff to do the same.
Essentially, Coach Dungy was promoting balance in his life, and in the lives of his assistants. Because he valued balance in his life, he began to value it in the life of his assistants. As a result, his assistants came to value balance in their lives too.
The world of coaching can be extremely demanding. The hours are long and the work is constant. Without balance, we run the risk of causing problems in our other relationships.
We spend a lot of our time chasing success and wins. We put in a lot of time doing every job imaginable in order to pursue these things. Even once we get them, we continue to seek more.
This is not to say that we cannot or should not work a demanding job, make money, and be successful. However, doing all of this to the detriment of other parts of our life really throws our life out of balance and could create long term issues. Working to maximize the seconds in your day could be a good start.
Challenge yourself to find balance in your life. Balance time with your home, yourself, and your work. It is a constant game of give and take. It may never be exactly as you want it or even equal, but by recognizing the need for balance and taking steps to achieve it in some degree, we are already ahead of the curve.
I am all for people making a living. Just do not forget to find balance and make your life in the process.
Bring your best today!